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What Is A Divorce Mediator?

 A key aspect of a successful mediation process is having an experienced, skilled divorce mediator mediating your divorce issues.  The parties in conflict will sit down with a San Francisco area divorce mediator, and the mediator will control the mediation process.  You should not be afraid to ask your San Francisco area divorce mediator about his or her experience and training.

A divorce mediator should be a neutral person who is trained in mediation techniques.  The role of a divorce mediator is to facilitate the mediation process.  The roles of divorce lawyers and divorce mediators differ.  Divorce lawyers advise their clients regarding how to resolve their issues, whereas a divorce mediator’s role is to facilitate the mediation process.

Divorce Lawyers as Mediators
A divorce mediator can also be a divorce lawyer.  The upside to having a divorce mediator, who is also a San Francisco area divorce lawyer is that the mediator then is aware of all the legal issues that needed to be resolved in ending a divorce.  While the role of the mediator is not to advise the parties as to how to resolve their issues, a divorce mediator can provide insight into how the court is likely to address similar issues, or what the parties could expect by going through the court process.

Counselors as Mediators
Non-lawyer mediators can also be very good divorce mediators.  In particular, mediators with counseling backgrounds can be very good mediators.  But you need to ask the questions and understand what background they have that makes them qualified, or experienced to do divorce mediation.  Whether the mediator is a lawyer or non-lawyer, ask for references.

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What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is a specialized process facilitated by a neutral divorce mediator to help people resolve any and all issues involved with ending a marriage.  Child custody and parenting issues, as well as marital property and debt division issues may be resolved through divorce mediation.  The agreements reached by the parties in divorce mediation get transferred into the necessary legal documents and filed with the appropriate court.  In California, it is possible for the parties to mediate all of their issues and never have to appear in court.

The Divorce Mediation Process
Your San Francisco area divorce mediator typically begins by explaining the mediation process, laying the ground rules, explaining what important documents the parties should bring to mediation.  Mediation can be viewed as a three-part process.  First, the mediator helps the parties identify whatever issues need to be resolved.  Next each issue is tackled one at a time.   For each issue, the parties are encouraged to brainstorm ideas for resolving the issue.  Finally, after a creative problem solving session produces a variety of options for resolving the conflict, the parties will begin discussing the pros and cons of the various options.  Ultimately the goal is to arrive at solutions that both parties can agree upon.  The process is repeated for each issue that needs to be resolved.

Mediation is a fantastic tool that can be used in all sorts of situations to resolve conflicts.  I personally specialize in divorce mediation because of my extensive divorce law experience.  However, mediation skills are transferable to resolving a variety of high conflict situations from neighborhood disputes to corporate partnership issues.

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